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If I got HPV well into a committed relationship, does it mean my partner has cheated on me?




 



SOMEONE CAN PLEASE HELP ME UNDERSTAND!
I understand that this virus could of been dormint for many years and one might not know about it.

In my life I have been sexually active with only one person (my current boyfriend) and according to my boyfriend (as far as I know) he has been sexually active with me only. I know him for 6 years. I''m just test tested postive for HPV, now I don't understand if I have never had any other sex partner neither did he; how can I get HPV? we both were clean (never sexually active) before this relationship.
SO PLEASE help me understand, HOW CAN I GET HPV if we both never had any other sex partner?
PLEASE HELP ME!


8/16/2007


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No, it does not mean your partner has cheated. HPV has an indefinite incubation time, so you could have gotten it from a previous partner and it could just now be showing up. I have heard that it can lay dormant for several years. Same goes for your partner - he/she could have gotten infected from a previous relationship, be carrying the virus, and have given it to you. So don''t panic, but don't be naive either. If you think there was cheating, check into it. If not, don't lose trust.

By:
Rebekah


3/26/2002


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how long can someone have genital warts without showing symptoms?


12/20/2007


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I just found out I have cancerous hpv. I have been with my husband for 12 years and we have 4 children. I just started burning and having discharge one day out of the blue I made an appointment to see my ob/gyn and the results came back last week. The only other person I had sex with was 13 years ago, I was Genital Wartsd on my prom night by a so-called friend and did not realize he would try anything with me. Just so happened, I found out a week later that he "got around". My ob said I could have gotten from him and it has just been dormiant all this time. What I want to know is why has it taken this long for someone to find this and explaining it to my husband has been very devastating. My ob hasn''t even started treatments, if there is any. I am concerned because I am still hurting from the colposcopy and the HPV. he said he wants to see me back in Feb. 04 to discuss further treatments. What should I do?

By:
crisevan


11/9/2003


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i have just been informed my boyfriend of nearly nine years has genital warts , the doc says it could have been dormant for all this time . what on earth am I to think ?


10/16/2004


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I have been married for seven years and have only had my husband as a partner. My husband however did have unprotected sex before we were together. I have been diagnosed with HPV and this is after yearly pap tests never coming back negative. Now I am in the beginning of my second trimester and am told that my pap was irregular and have HPV. I am very curious how I could have had annual pap tests and never had an irregularity and now have HPV? Neither my husband or myself show any sign of the disease either. . . Is it possible that due to my body not being as strong because of being pregnant HPV ruptured? Please answer back, I am very upset and this is the last thing you want to hear when your ending your twelfth week of pregnancy.


2/16/2010


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No! The infected person could have gotten this from someone else before you. Keep your head up and God will work everything out for you.


2/9/2003


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I find the whole hpv scenario highly suspicious. For instance, I was once told by an RN that since I tested positive for hpv and the only person I was ever sexually active with was my husband, that he obviously carried the "virus" and that to find out if he carried hpv was to dip his (wick) in vinegar. If he was positive, the affected areas would turn white.
Come on! I was treated via cryosurgery the 1st time. Then, 5 years later, the pap came up with another case of dysplasia. 7 years later, tested positive again! This time I was treated with the lovely LEEP procedure. I swear to God, if I ever get an HPV postive pAp again, when the LEEP is supposed to cure the hpv in 95% of the cases, then I AM FILING FOR DIVORCE. Something is rotten in the OB/GYN field and I suspect women everywhere are getting taken for a ride. Is it possible that we are catching viruses from improperly sterilized instruments or are 75% of women getting cheated on? Someone needs to investigate this odd phenonemon!

By:
annarosa


8/25/2004


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I would say that most cases of a spouse getting hpv well into a relationship is the result of a partner cheating. HPV is thought to pass in over 90% of all cases in two years. Though it''s possible for it to be dormat for some time and for stress or some immune depressing thingy to have it recurr, this is rare. I say he or she cheated, in most cases!!


1/20/2004


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i WAS DIAGNOSED WITH HPV BY ONE DOCTOR FROM HAVING A WHITE BUMP. BUT WHEN I WENT TO ANOTHER DOCTOR SHE DID A HPV TEST AND IT WAS NEGATIVE. SO DOES THIS MEAN I DON''T HAVE HPV. I AM CONFUSED.


10/21/2005


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NO, because this is something that can be in your body for 30 years and not show any symtomps before showing up if you had sex in your early age chances are you got it there remember its not the end of the world 75% of us have this skin virus just like the chicken pox virus or the common cold flu virus we live with it all our lives and there is medication for it, so dont worry about it get the cheating part out of your head and just take care of it.good luck may god bless you ...


6/24/2003


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Definitely not. The below is from the American Social Health Association:

3. Myth: In a monogamous relationship, an HPV diagnosis means someone has cheated.

This myth has been responsible for a great deal of anger, confusion, and heartache. It has led many people to tragically wrong conclusions because it fails to take into account one of the most mysterious aspects of genital HPV: its ability to lie latent.

The virus can remain in the body for weeks, years, or even a lifetime, giving no sign of its presence. Or a genital HPV infection may produce warts, lesions, or cervical abnormalities after a latent period of months or even years.

As mentioned above, most people who are infected with genital HPV never know it their virus does not call attention to itself in any way. In most cases, a person is diagnosed with HPV only because some troubling symptom drove him or her to a health care professional, or some abnormality was revealed in the course of a routine exam.

But although careful examination can identify genital HPV infection, and laboratory tests may even narrow down the identification to a specific type among the two dozen or so that inhabit the genital tract, there is simply no way to find out how long a particular infection has been in place, or to trace it back to a particular partner.

In a monogamous relationship, therefore, just as in an affair or even in an interval of no sexual relationships at all, an HPV diagnosis means only that the person contracted an HPV infection at some point in his or her life.



12/10/2004


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I have recently been diagnosed with high risk HPV due to an abnormal pap. Neither my partner or I have any symptoms, and never had warts. I am 35 with 2 kids, and can count my partners on 1 hand... Not many, and all of them were long term. I have a pap every year, since I was 15 and its always been normal. My current partner and I have been together 1 year. He feels awful because he believes (and I agree) that he gave it to me. His ex-wife was very promiscuous.... I have done a lot of research on this, I work in the medical field, and know some great sites for accurate research. Men are usually carriers, of the asymptomatic categories of HPV. Both men and women can have it for years and not know it. DONT assume he/she is cheating. They may have had it since the first sexual experience and not even know! Do your homework before you jump to conclusions.


10/24/2004


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NO, because this is something that can be in your body for 30 years and not show any symtomps before showing up if you had sex in your early age chances are you got it there remember its not the end of the world 75% of us have this skin virus just like the chicken pox virus or the common cold flu virus we live with it all our lives and there is medication for it, so dont worry about it get the cheating part out of your head and just take care of it.good luck may god bless you ...


6/24/2003


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No it doesnt but it may mean your partner didnt tell you about it fromt the beg.
Don''t be mad HPV is like catching a cold down there, get it taken care of and love the person for who they are...HPV is soooo common


1/24/2007


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No, my ex-(*$!!!) gave me HPV. I was married one year to my present husband and he broke out with warts. Of course, he thinks I cheated. But, no it does not mean that your partner cheated. Cause I didn''t. I also work in a OB/GYN office and see this daily. Women usually don't know until we do a pap and it comes back ASCUS and we do HPV typing. It is a hard thing to explain to a person.


10/27/2003


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Like the Typhoid Mary case, people can be a carrier without ever having a breakout. If one never had a breakout, they will not be aware of whether they are a carrier or not. It doesnt mean he cheated and it doesnt mean he''s a creep for not disclosing. He may just not know because he has a strong immune system.

By:
Nuclear321


7/12/2007


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Here are a few responses from leading experts in the field on warts appearing in a committed relationship.

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It is not uncommon for warts to appear many years after the initial ''''cure''. In most of these cases it is due to virus that has remained in the skin from the initial episode.

Raymond Maw

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Genital warts not infrequently recur years later, in the absence of new sexual exposure. Papillomaviruses have an inherent mechanism of sub-clinical latency. Nearly all, or all of us have latent HPVs at some cutaneous or mucosal site.

Dr Charles Lacey

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Many in the HPV field, myself included, believe that some people continue to have dormant HPV infection after they have been treated for warts, and this can reactivate later in some people.

Dr Joel Palefsky

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Warts can recur at any time, bit of stress and your immune system loses the ability to keep them in check

Dr Colm O''Mahony

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Some people are very slow in clearing virus, if they clear it at all. Warts suddenly reappearing during a long term relationship is not uncommon.

Dr Chris Sonnex

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1/5/2010


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I think I have HPV, I have warts on my inner vagina that are small. I have never had sex, I recieved head 5 days ago and pretty much it. I''''m worried as to not knowing if I have it or not. Can someone please respond to this?


12/1/2009


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no, it doesn''t. symptoms can start to occur in 1-3 months of being infected. however, it can occur as late as 3-6 months after the infection.


12/11/2003


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no he should love you without having sex and for who you are


11/11/2004


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Dont assume the worst. Hpv can be dormant in your body, and may not pass right away if at all. I was with my now husband for 5 months before I got HPV and he has had it for many years.


10/8/2003


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yes


12/15/2006


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k


8/16/2007


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No. It is estimated that anywhere between 50 and 75% of the sexually active population carry a strain of HPV. Many people can carry a strain, and never show symptoms.


8/31/2003


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you must not hav it


10/21/2005


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obviously..........


2/26/2008


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Well I as well as another person on here got told we have hpv while in our second trimester of pregnancy.... either pregnancy gets the hpv to not be dormant any more or doctors have a scam going on. My doctor says its nothing urgent infact i now have to wait till next month to make sure I dont have cervical cancer. which all seems a bit wierd to me...


3/23/2010


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It''''s important to remember that HPV can go undetected for indefinite time lying dormant until the right conditions occur, if at all.


12/29/2009


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m


1/18/2010


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I came down with HPV via a pap smear a year after my last male sexual partner and well into a relationship with a girl, who I''''m pretty sure didn''t give it to me and never seems to have come down with it. So... yeah, it can lie dormant for a while.

It''s possible that you got it from a previous partner. It''s also possible that your partner got it from a previous partner, but has never shown any symptoms of it- and unknowingly passed it onto you


11/28/2009


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