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Question:
I just told my new boyfriend that I have HPV. I just found out that I have the virus so this is all so new to me as well. My question is does anyone have any suggestions as to what to tell him to maybe make him feel better? He decided that he did not want to continue our new relationship, and I completely respect and understand his decision, but I want him to understand what I going through and hopefully make him realize that theres not a great deal to worry about?
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WOW, GOOD FOR YOU! I AM SO GLAD YOU WERE SO HONEST AND MATURE ABOUT THE GENITAL WARTS! I WORRY THAT MANY PEOPLE ARE KNOWINGLY PASSING THIS DISEASE AROUND! YOU SHOULD BE APPLAUDED!
I CAN''T IMAGINE HOW DIFFICULT THAT MUST HAVE BEEN!
NOW, YOU NEED TO MAKE SURE YOUR FRIEND IS FULLY AWARE OF HOW INCREDIBLY COMMON AND TREATABLE THIS DISEASE IS! (MY WARTS HAVE GONE AWAY WITH ONLY TWO WEEKS OF ALDARA TREATMENT)
IF HE REALLY LIKE S YOU AND RESPECTS YOU, HE WILL MOST LIKELY GET OVER THIS, AND REALIZE IT'S ONLY A MINOR INCONVENIENCE, AND A SMALL PRICE TO PAY FOR BEING WITH SOMEONE SPECIAL! BUT PLEASE MAKE SURE HE DOES REALIZE THAT CONDOMS DO NOT GUARANTEE PROTECTION AGAINST GENITAL WARTS.
WHEN I WAS RECENTLY DIAGNOSED, ONE OF MY BIGGEST WORRIES WAS THAT MY BOYFRIEND WAS GONNA GET DISGUSTED AND SCARED,AND LEAVE ME!.. LUCKILY, WE BOTH UNDERSTAND THAT EITHER OF US COULD HAVE UNKNOWINGLY BROUGHT THE WARTS TO THE RELATIONSHIP, AND HE HAS BEEN SO GREAT! STRANGELY ENOUGH, BEING DIAGNOSED HAS BEEN ONE OF THE BEST THINGS THAT HAS HAPPENED TO ME: MADE ME DECIDE TO QUIT SMOKING, EAT HEALTHIER, AND HAS BROUGHT ME EVEN CLOSER WITH THE LOVE OF MY LIFE!
IF YOUR FRIEND STILL DECIDES HE DOESN'T WANT TO CONTINUE YOUR RELATIONSHIP, I WOULD SAY LET IT GO, AND MAYBE HE WILL COME AROUND ON HIS OWN. JUST IMAGINE, FOR HIM, WHAT IT WOULD BE LIKE TO KNOW THAT HAVING SEX WITH SOMEONE WILL LIKELY GIVE YOU A DISEASE ... ***WAIT A MINUTE, THAT IS WHAT HAPPENS EVERYTIME WE DECIDE TO HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE! SEXUALLY ACTIVE PEOPLE RUN THAT RISK NO MATTER WHAT !!!!! MAYBE YOU SHOULD RUN THAT BY HIM!!***
GOOD LUCK AND BE WELL!
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I tell my boyfriends that it is a virus that mainly infects women and that it is hard to give to guys. I tell them that the strain I have does nothing, no warts, no burning when I pee none of that. I tell them that it is inside me and just changes the cells in me which doesn''t really seem harmful. I tell them that they are safe from transferring it to other girls as long as they wear a condom, no matter what no unprotected sex (that's how I got it in the first place).I also tell them that it will go away after a while b/c my immune system is very healthy and strong. I've been fortunate to meet guys that are very understanding and don't let this virus effect our relationship. You should be with guys you trust to be with you no matter what. Good luck and don't worry you will find someone to love you the way you are.
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Please post this question on HPV Support.com.
There''s a forum there called 'Dating with HPV' where you'll get much better response with a question like this.
Take care!
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I had a similar experience. Except it was my new girlfriend who told me. Basically, I was initially concerned, but after some research and learning that by all chances, I already have it (99.9% of males show no symptoms, 80% of population has it). Besides, she is too amazing to leave for something that really, isn''t that big of a deal. Leaving her could be the worst mistake of my life.
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first of all,he may of given them to you,this hpv is so very small that it can go through a condom-and go figure that in most cases men do not even show signs and there is NO test to give a man. but this is all mumbo-jumbo b/c if this can go through a condom and you had protected/or un-protected what ever he also has it-who knows who gave it to who!!!!!
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I agree with an earlier answer!!!
What makes you think he didn''t give them to you in the first place. Unless he was a virgin there was an excellant chance he already had the virus before he met you (75% to 93% of non virgins are estimated to have it according to medical research AND many have no idea they have it!!).
Cheer up and get a "wiser" man!
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He''s not going to die over this as if you had aids, but he does have to treat it. No, granted it won't go away but if he ca=hanges his mind and wants to be with you he can be with you and not have to worry about infecting you cause you already have the virus and hopefully you two can try and be happy together.
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make light of it. dont get over excited in trying to explain much. advise him to check the net about it so he can see its not a big deal.
you could try explaining that HPV is like chicken pox. people with chicken pox will always have the virus in their body as do people with HPV and just like chicken pox the warts will go and more than likely not return if treated with the right medication. the main worry with HPV is that it looks ''unsightly' but it doesnt really cause any damage or harm.
i havent long known that I have hpv and it hasnt really upset me in any way or my current boyfriend because we think of it lightly. like having spots or acne! you get them, they go. u get them...they go! and best of all...they dont come back at all sometimes. good luck.
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