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Question:
What''s the best way to get over the initial depression after finding out you have hpv?
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I was diagnosed 8 days ago, and have felt terrible ever since. I felt so uninformed, and like some of the other people on here I instantly assumed that I would be stuck with the virus and reoccuring bouts of warts for the rest of my life. I thought I was doomed to a cancerous Genital Warts and to have children with warts in their throats. I realise that all these eventualities are possible, but am going to start taking vitamins in a bid to strengthen my weak immune system, and generally I aim to look after myself better.
I feel that I do not deserve this, what with being so young and having such a promising future (I start university at one of the best in the country in September). I deeply and bitterly resent the man who gave it to me, and think that he deserves all he gets - being my second, and only partner with previous sexual partners, i found it all rather damning. I knew he was irresponsible sexually, but was young and naive, and he was older and confident... I feel like he should''ve been an adult and been more careful. At the time, I was relieved that when the condom split, I didn't end up pregnant... 2 years later, I discover I have HPV, and feel like I would rather have gotten pregnant, because at least I could've got an abortion.
In short, I feel your pain.
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Everyone is different, but I found that the more I learned about this virus the more I realized that a lot of people have it, since there are like 70 or more strands of the virus,30 that are sexually transmitted, you can pretty much assume that most people have one or more strands, and since a lot of the strands never show symptoms than you never know who has it, which sucks and that why so many of us got this, but the good news is that it''s not as bad as it seems, and it won't kill you. Also you should call your doctor and find out which type/s of hpv you have and than do research to learn more about them. This has also given me a reason to quit smoking, and start taking care of my body and my health. Hope this helps you, be strong it's not that bad.
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I was really depressed when I first found out about it. I thought I was going to get cancer and going to die. I was looking for someone to blame and was angry at myself and at my boyfriend of three years. My doctor explained to me that I shouldnt be angry w/ him because most people dont even know they have it. As he, was also shocked to find out himself. After doing more research, I find comfort in knowing that I am not the only one going thru this. It''s been about 2yrs since I was diagnosed with dyslasia and I became paranoid about genital warts(which I have never had) I guess, from what I've heard just because you have dysplasia doesnt mean you have warts. I think about it from time to time and still it makes me sad but it has made me stronger and has made me more cautious about decisions I make and my health. Just think, it could be worse.
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In response to the person who said they were diagnosed 8 days ago...I was also diagnosed about a week ago.
I will say that I am handling it quite well. I got them removed, which hardly hurt, and now I just have to be much more careful when having sex. I hardly ever used condoms before. I believe everything happens for a reason and this is not the worst that could happen. This virus has potential to go away. Taking vitamins to strengthen your immune system is an excellent way to start. My doctor recommended that to me too.
But believe me, a bet over half the people you know have it too. They just don''t show symptoms like we do. I feel almost fortunate that I aleast know I have it so I can start taking care of my body now.
I don't feel 100% okay about it, I definitely feel myself down in the dumps a bit more. But it does help to know that I am definitely not alone. I felt all the same things that you did and I still do to some extent. But we will be fine as long as we don't abuse our bodies. And we can still have sex and be as crazy as we want, we just need to be aware. Cheer up, babe. It sucks, but atleast we don't have something that we definitely can't get rid of. It could happen. Let's cross our fingers!
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Same here.. I was really depressed for the first week. But I can tell you that overall this experience has improved my life as I have made good and concious decisions to improve my health. I started excercising, eating healthy and I quit smoking. Good luck to you.
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I am the one that posted this question, and to the last person that responded...thank you so much. You have such a positive attitude. I just read this long after I''ve more than learned to accept it, and it still somehow brightened my day. Thank you for being who you are...whoever you are. :-)
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I was diagnosed about a week ago. I was so scared and embarresed to go and see my doctor. I felt so ashamed. When my doctor looked at them and confirmed my fears my eyes started to tear up. I went through so many emotions. My doctor actually made me feel better. She reassured mr that it was really no big deal. Many people have this and it is common. She also informed me no matter how safe I played it a condom could not have protected me because of the location of my wart. After a week I have tried to tell myself this has happened for a reason. I have to take care of myself and the more upset and depressed I am the more likely I can set myself up for more breakouts. I have come to terms to take vitamins, eat the right foods, and live stress free to keep my immune system up. Keep your head up.
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I think the best thing that helped me is to find this website. This is a wonderful website. They should havd a site like this for all health problems and diseases. The link optimistic links is very helpful in putting all this into perspective. Just think of all the people that have this disease or will have it very soon. It''s getting to the point of looking at it like the common cold. Also they predict that very soon they will have a cure for this.
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I found out I have dysplasia a few days ago, and now I''m waiting to get my lab results back to find out if it is cancerous or not. I got this disease from my husband, (my 2nd parter, and only partner with previous sexual partners) and I feel so resentful and sad. I've been so careful my whole life and I deliberately refrained from a promiscuous lifestyle, and now I'm facing this anyway. I know that with proper care, the chance of Genital Warts of cancer is very very small, but I'm so worried about the way that the procedures will affect my ability to carry a baby. And I feel gross.
It helps to know that there are other girls out there going through this! Best of luck to you all.
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i recently found out too that I have the hpv virus and at the moment it still to this day is very hard to take in i found out on the 13th of october that i was diagnosed with it if anyone has any suggestions on what i can do to cop like it is really getting to me i know i can get thru it but i find myself very sad i feel like imdown in the dumps alot and ya my boyfriend of almost a year is still with me after we found out that i had it but i just feel as though he can do better and i shouldnt feel this way how can i cope im only 21 and this website has helped me alot but i just need suggestions to help me out if anyone knows of anything please let me know
thank you
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