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Has anyone ever in the history of mankind, told a potential sexual partner that they had HPV? And If so, how did they frame the information?
I know people that have. To me it only seems right to. Start by explaining that you have hpv, the virus that causes warts. Then explain how common it is(it is believed that up to 75% of sexually active people carry the virus),Tell them how you are being honest even though it's hard to explain such a thing.Hope you have luck
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
2/3/2003
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I told my new partner before we ever got intimate, very soon after finding out that I have hpv, and basically told him that I have something to tell him (when the moment was right when we were alone and could talk, preferrably not in the heat of the moment too), and told him how common it was, and how I had to tell him because I cared about him, and that I am seeking treatment. I even mentioned that if it was too much for him to handle, I would understand if he wouldn't want to be with me.
He replied "If this (meaning sex which we never engaged in) was all that we have, then I could understand breaking up, but it's not...I really care about you" and then he gave me a kiss.
Depending upon the relationship, something as big as this being brought up, could make your relationship 100 times stronger. I knew when he said that to me, that he is the most amazing guy in the world. Of course he had a couple questions, but get as much information as possible for that person, so when they ask, you can tell them! :) Good Luck!
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
4/23/2003
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Best thing to do is be straight forward. It would be incredibly selfish and unfair of you to go ahead and have sex and not tell them. Almost as unfair as the person that did it to you. So let them make the judgment call on whether or not to have sex. Luckily, when I had to do this, she was understanding and got all the facts, and we continue to have sex. So tell her straight up.
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
5/23/2003
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I told my boyfriend. I had a lot of tears, and he was very quiet. It's not a scenario I ever anticipated being in. He understands, he loves me and he says he doesn't want to break up, but its been 2 weeks and we still haven't had intercourse and he knows he was subjected to it before I was diagnosed. I know I did the right thing telling him and I have to accept whatever he decides to do. Life goes on.
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
4/27/2003
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I lost someone that I cared VERY deeply for by not telling him. After that, when I started dating someone, I would tell him pretty soon. Usually after the third date, when I saw it might be going somewhere. Usually the response is ok. I have educated myself pretty well on the subject so I am able to talk to him about it. Usually he has the type of questions you see on this site (transmission, treatment,etc...).
My advice would be to educate yourself, and tell your partner as soon as you feel its necessary. If it is someone that is right for you, he/she will understand. If he/she flies the coop then they werent worth your time in the first place.
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
3/23/2003
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I had to tell my boyfriend of two years that I had an std and he cried. Just make sure your there to lend an ear to them and remember that unless you knew about it before and did it anyway, you shouldnt feel guilty
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Anonymous
Date Answered:
6/27/2003
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