I found out that I had HPV after I had already been in a realtionship with this man for several months. By then, we had already had sex. I didn't have a clue until I developed what looks like a small skintag on the outter lips of my vagina. Actually, he found it. After seeing my doctor today, I told him about the virus and he felt awful about the fact that it may or may not be his fault. I had never had anything abnormal until after I had been with him. I told him that I was not mad at him, but at the situation. I told him that it didn't matter where it came from because we will never know. His past is much more extensive than mine, but as many other people on this sight have said, it can happen to anyone. I feel much guilt myself because I don't know if I brought this to him. (He has had no symptoms, but maybe he never will either.) I am just afraid now that he is going to find me unattractive. Nothing can make you feel like a dirty tramp more than an std, even if that is not the case. I just hope he realizes that this doesnt change who we are and what we have together. I have read both hopeful and devastating stories on this website about people telling thier significant others, so right now I am just hoping for the best. So, if anybody has some good stories to tell, please share and help me to remain positive about this mess.
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10/17/2003 4:12:18 PM
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CB
I wish you the best and REMEBER if you loves you he will stay. You need someone that is going to support you in this time of need. Of course right now at the begining of all of this, he or you might not just want to jump into bed with eachother. It is normal. That does NOT mean he is not attracted to you anymore. Just talk to him. Stay honest with eachother. Talk about the situation and get eachothers imput on it. lots of luck to you.