I am 26 years old. I have been with the same man for 10 years and had two children with him. he had genital warts when i met him and very visable ones. I must be an idiote because it wasnt until 4 years into the relationship, after the birth of our first child, that i made him go see a doctor and found out what they were. The Dr. and my husband acted like it was normal "everyone has them" were the dr's exact words?? I have now years latter and after several normal paps been told by three Dr's that i dont have them?? OK I was playing blind to the situation but not anymore! It is not possible that i don't have this I know and so does any worthwhile health care proffesional, right? Why does my husband and every dr i have seen tell me not to worry that i don't have it? Are people this stupid? I have explained, after much research that the risks are ther for cervical cancer, My husband doesnt seem to care and has no knowledge of what he is carrying around, wants to have sex when he has breakouts he thinks i should ignore this? His lack of concern for me is appaling! It is destroying our relationship. I constantly worry, we no longer have sex. I worry about my kids contracting it from one of us off a washcloth, i say us because i know it is not possible after ten years of unprotected sex for me to have not contracted it Right? Regardless of what the dumb as hell incompitant dr's say! Has anyone else had this problem with drs telling them they are not infected, or to not worry everyone has it well then why don't i after all these years? I want to handle this responsibly so i don't end up with cervical cancer, I have two wonderful small children to care for, I just want to screem!!! Can anyone help me
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12/11/2003 4:11:34 PM
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Okay,first does your husband have genital warts or follicular warts? Some men get warts that arent genital warts, there are pictures on this website i believe. These should go away with treatment, and although you can catch them, they are like the ones you get on your hands and feet.
12/11/2003 4:14:24 PM
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second, the strain that causes genital warts doesnt cause cancer. It causes warts, so you are okay there. You may have caught it and never gotten warts becuz you have a strong immune system. If you were going to have a break out, i think you would have already had one considering its been 10 yrs and you have had kids. usually pregnancy brings them out with the hormonal changes. .
12/11/2003 4:16:54 PM
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he should go get treatment if he has a breakout to prevent them from spreading on himself. sex/masturbating spreads em!!! Calm down though, it is okay, you are okay and are going to be okay. you arent going to get cancer from this. Also, the virus doesnt live for long time outside the body, so i dnt think u have to worry about your kids. but you probably shouldnt share washcloths/towels anyway. That spreads other germs!
12/11/2003 5:20:34 PM
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I think you need to calm down. Stop bashing your hubby already, he's just going by what the DR says. Furthermore, if you were going to get them, I think you would have gotten them by now. And also, the type of HPV that causes warts isn't the type known for causing cancer so relax.
12/11/2003 6:34:38 PM
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I agree- you are OK. Your husband had a virus 75% of Americans have. If you were to get with someone else that wasn't a virgin -he would probably have this virus, too, but not warts. Drs don't think this is a very big deal because they see countless cases of this on a daily basis. Doctors usually don't get to where they are by being "idiots".
12/11/2003 10:27:11 PM
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Craig
in 10 years your husband hasn't successfully beat it with treatment?
12/12/2003 2:04:55 AM
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HAVE SEX WITH HIM AGAIN! JEEZE! And get on a treadmill to MAKE SURE you don't get what he has. :\ Man oh man.
12/12/2003 10:19:06 AM
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cwissy
Please people, I would feel the same why she is feeling. It sounds to me that her husband really does not give a F***K about his health, so why should he care about her's. I would go to a different Dr and have hime get treated for the warts.
Take care
12/12/2003 11:51:30 AM
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i had a similar experience, im 21 years old, and have only been with 1 man, hes 9 years older than me and has had many partners before me, about 2 years ago i was diagnosed with gw, i didnt have a breakout until i got pregnant. I know i got it from him, theres no other way. but he has never had a breakout, and i am completely covered. but he doesnt like to talk about it, he says it makes him feel bad. well boo hoo, youre not the one coverd in warts. jeez, men.
12/12/2003 4:01:19 PM
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Maybe it is not GW. Or maybe his health is not in the best to potentially fight off the virus. But yours is- I was once researching and found that you will not be re-infected with the same strand nor will you guys continue to pass it back and forth to eachother. If it is an HPV of any sort your body has already taken care of it. So calm down and try to rationalize with your husband. After 10 years we know he Loves you- make him listen.
12/12/2003 4:23:32 PM
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Cwissy, lighten up already...the guys jsut going by what his doctor said...he may be naive but not a bad guy...geez he's just following what hte DR said. THe original poster also was told the same by THREE other Dr so don't just come down on the husband. What's with all the guy bashing here??
