I found out I had HPV and genital warts while I was this guy. When I told him, he just kinda shrugged it off. I tried to talk to him but couldnt find the words, so I just handed him the pamphlet my doctor gave me. I kept trying to talk to him about it but he'd just say we'd talk about it later. Basically, we never really talked about it. He acted like nothing ever happened. Well, now we're not together and I've been through a colop., a biopsy, and in 3 weeks a LEEP...which means they HPV I have and he possibly gave me can cause pre-canerous cells...which means he can give this to the next girl he sleeps with... So how do I talk to him? We didn't really end on the best of terms. And odds are I'll break down in tears which I dont want him to see (he's made me cry enough, I dont want him to know he still has that effect on me) I mean he has to know he has this too. We were in a monogamous relationship and we didn't use protection (yes, stupid I know). So do I really have to put myself through this? AHHHHHHHHHH Help!
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4/22/2004 12:17:24 AM
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Not stupid at all. That's the way it usually works, some people get lucky and don't know they have HPV, some don't (but we all get it at some point). I say just tell him quickly to get it off your conscience and then extend your middle finger, say goodbye, and let him do what he will with the info. You'll be in the ethical clear which will help your overall well being.
4/22/2004 6:13:22 PM
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I dowbt he will listen this time if he hasn't already. It sounds like he will deny it even if he does listen and play it off like it is not his problem. I wouldn't bother I mean you've already tried before and look where it got you- know where.
4/25/2004 1:21:38 AM
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Tell him what he has put you through, and that he could find someone he really loves and may want to start a life with and end up putting her through the same situation that could end bad. If he doesn't listen, and he has a girlfriend, be the nice ex and tell her about your situation and how you got into it. WARN HER!!
4/25/2004 7:30:48 PM
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I dont know if he's sleeping wit this girl or not and I really dont want to. I dont even know who she is let alone what her name is, I have no way to talk to her nor do I want to put my private life out there like that to a perfect stranger...sorry if that sounds selfish but I cant put myself through all this again and again. I'm just starting to deal with it and be OK with it...I dont want to regress back to when I cried all the time and was miserable.
4/25/2004 7:33:20 PM
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Cont... I heard he's "seeing" someone new. In case the previous post didnt make sense...she's the girl I'm referring to
4/29/2004 3:50:58 PM
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Well, I did talk to my ex. He called me at like 12:30am. I was half asleep so I dont remember the whole conversation. But I know I did tell him what I've been through w/ the biopsy and LEEP next month and how careful he needs to be when he sleeps with someone and how he probably give this to the next girl he sleeps with. He just said "I know" and "OK" and "Uh- huh" basically. So, I've done my part...as hard as it was. I'm proud if myself!
