Posted: 1/25/2005

giving this to someone else

A guy I have liked for the past 4 years of my life is suddenly interested in me and has been coming over alot lately. It's getting to the point where sex is a coming up, and i end up having to stop him. I really don't want to stop him, believe me. A month ago I found out I have hpv. I had a few small warts near my opening and had them burned immediatly. The doctor told me I didn't need to tell anyone. If the warts have been burned, and were never located on the outside, with a condom can I still give this to him? The doctor says I'm fine. But the way I care about this person I don't want to give it to them. However, I know telling him would throw away any chance I ever had. He is everything I want out of a guy, and I am completely torn.

Comments:

1/25/2005 2:02:55 PM -
yes unfortunately you could still give
this to him even with a condom on. i
hate to say it, but if telling him
would throw away any chance then that
means he isnt really interested in you
gal. sounds like someone trying to get
laid. you deserve better than that.
if you've liked him for 4 yrs and he's
just now showing interest and pushing
for sex, well, just sounds like a horny
guy sweetie. i'm sorry. you need
someone who REALLY likes you for you.

1/25/2005 4:22:45 PM -
I caught warts with a condom!! Always
used condoms and i was not safe. With
you just being treated for warts..you
are still very contagious. I would
think this would be an eye opener for
you and that casual sex without proper
testing is a big no no these days. You
can get herpes with a condom too!

1/25/2005 4:24:39 PM - cont
Have this guy tested before you
decide to have sex with him....even
with a condom. Open communication is
key if you dont want to catch anything
else on top of what you already have.

1/25/2005 6:04:28 PM -
if he really cares for you then he
will take the good with the bad. that
is what having an open trusting
relationship is about.

1/25/2005 11:25:51 PM - Hey
I think that situation is one of the
hardest things to deal with. I love
someone, but I am embarrassed to tell
him. It's not MY fault I ended up with
HPV, but I unfortunately have it. And
maybe the guy does love you, but they
just don't want to get warts! If
someone told me they had HPV I'd
really be in a tough situation...
thinking if I really am going to be
with this person, if it's worth HPV

1/25/2005 11:32:12 PM - cont'd
I wouldn't tell him yet. Give it time!
See what he really wants from you. My
doctor told me it will give you a
really emotional bond between you and
your guy. It's true too. He might tell
people about it. Make sure there is
really an emotional bond between you
and it's not a temporary thing for
him. It's so hard to face the truth
sometimes, and hard to hold back. But
things will happen for the best -
promise.

1/26/2005 10:36:05 PM - HAIRS
TELL HIM
WE NEED TO GET RID OF THE STIGMA

1/28/2005 1:57:30 PM - John
You don't neeed to have intercourse to
have a good ole time.

2/1/2005 12:35:50 PM - to the above
speak for yourself. I need intercourse
for a good time.

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